When you’re searching for ways to love yourself, looking within is a great place to start.
So often, we begin loving ourselves by moving toward the external - buying something, going somewhere, putting on makeup, eating something… (I’m not saying these are “bad.” I happen to really enjoy doing all of those things).
I do believe that if we haven’t checked in with ourselves about what makes us happy and how we feel about our current life circumstances, it’s really difficult to do self-love activities that actually make us feel loved.
If we are in a negative mood, the external activities can make us feel worse. If we are doing things that other people have told us we “should” enjoy doing that don’t actually resonate with us, we might end up feeling more tired, grumpy, or lost because of it.
Self-love activities aren’t about getting new things. They’re about showing ourselves an unconditional sense of affection and acceptance. It’s about taking the time to learn ourselves and acknowledge ourselves.
This is why I think journaling is such an amazing way to perform self-love. It’s an activity that is all about you! Check out this post about how to start a self-care journaling practice and then get your very own Meditate & Wonder 365 day Love My Life journal.
I want to give you 20 of my favorite journal questions that bring me back to my authentic self and show me how to love myself on a daily basis.
Pick one question to write a response to - and let your pen move for at least 5 minutes. Don’t stop moving your pen. Don’t censor yourself. Move any thought in your mind to the page, and watch how much of your truth transfers from your heart to your journal.
1. What do I believe I deserve in life? Why?
2. What does trust mean to me? How can I learn to trust more?
3. There is a quote from Jack Kornfield that says, “ Like a sandcastle, all is temporary. Build it, tend it, enjoy it. And when the time comes, let it go.” What do you need to let go of in your life? How do you think you will feel once you let it go?
4. The Dalai Lama once said, “Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” When was the last time you didn’t get something you wanted, but it worked out for the better?
5. Make a list of 10 things you do to relax. How can you incorporate these things into the week ahead of you?
6. What is your favorite song? Why do you like it? How does the song make you feel? What do you think about when you listen to it?
7. “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson If you knew this statement were true, what would you do differently in your life? What if you could do these things every day?
8. What does love mean to you? How do you show these emotions and actions to yourself?
9. In what areas of your life do you show a lot of faith? Why does faith come easily to you in these circumstances?
10. What would your daily habits look like if you chose to live life with an open heart?
11. Have you ever valued someone else’s opinion over your own? Why? What would that situation have looked like if you put yourself first?
12. What type of person do you believe you are? What do you love about those characteristics?
13. Alan Watts said, “The most dangerous risk of all is the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” What would you do in your life if you had the world at your fingertips?
14. What does forgiveness mean? What do you need to forgive yourself for? How can you love yourself through the forgiveness process?
15. Being mindful means paying attention to the present moment without judgment or analysis. How can you practice mindfulness in your life? How will mindfulness help you?
16. Where do you want to be in a year? Focus on feeling good while you write about your dreams. Focus on feeling happy and believing your dreams can become a reality.
17. Schedule times throughout the day when you will give yourself a pat on the back. Tell yourself how good you’re doing. Tell yourself how much you appreciate your hard work. Set alarms on your phone to remind you. At the end of the day, write down how each affirmation made you feel. Write down how each affirmation changed your mood or actions.
18. What do you love about your life right now? Why do you love it?
19. What does imperfection mean to you? How can you learn to embrace imperfection in your life?
20. Is being selfish a negative thing or a positive thing? What if you believed that being focused on your feelings could be beneficial to your wellbeing? How would your life change?
What questions do you like the most? Are there any questions not on this list that you love to write about? Comment below and let me know!
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