The Harsh Truth About Living Your Dreams & Loving Yourself

Here’s the truth… 

If you’re not taking action towards living a life that you actually WANT… if you’re not excited about what you’re doing everyday then it’s time to make some changes. 

I used to preach that message to my students every Tuesday and Thursday. 

I’d say, “If you’re not excited about being in this room, you have some work to do! If you’re not interested in being here, if sitting in that seat is the last thing you care about and you’d rather be anywhere but here… there is either some kind of connection you need to make between the work you’re doing right now and the life you want for yourself later OR you need to get so clear about what you want that you realize maybe college really isn’t the place you need to be.”

And I said it all because I knew exactly what it was like to sit in a classroom and feel like I’d rather trip and fall into a human-sized blender than learn another thing about statistics.

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How to Love Feeling Afraid When Chasing Your Dreams

Have you been wanting to try something new, take a risk, or pursue a big dream?

How long have you kept this dream a secret? Only thinking about it at night before you sleep… refusing to give your dream attention, refusing to commit to it because this wild dream can’t possibly come true, right?

Have you been wanting to create a bigger, more amazing, more authentic life for yourself? Have you been wanting to make changes, to do things differently, to switch up your habits and become the person you know you can be?

If you have… I know for sure you’ve encountered your fair share of fear.

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How to Stop Being a Perfectionist

One of the most important things I’ve had the pleasure of learning over and over again in life is that perfection is a myth. 

The first time I really HEARD these words (actually felt them, and could understand the validity and impact of this lesson) was in a college classroom. I was working as a supplemental instructor, learning how to teach writing to college freshman from one of the most amazing and passionate people on the planet. 

The way this professor talked about language, learning, and writing turned my world upside down. I was in the middle of one of the most stressful semesters I’d ever experienced - applying for graduate school, taking on brand new leadership roles, working, and taking honors classes… and on top of the baseline requirements, I was learning how to become comfortable behaving and coping as a college senior, as a writer, or and as a teacher. 

Long story short, I had no idea what I was doing.

But this professor changed everything for me. 

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What They Don't Tell You About Self-Love and Self-Care...

I’m sure you’ve heard it before… take care of yourself first because you can’t support anyone else if you’re struggling yourself. 

We know that self-care is about making sure we’re doing what’s necessary for us to feel alive, well, vibrant, and healthy. We know not to take a second for granted because this existence in this particular body with this particular perspective at this moment in time doesn’t last and eventually we will cease to exist... so we say seize the day, take chances while you can, and live your best life.

And then we get upset. We get upset with ourselves, and we get upset with the people we’re around.

Because what actually happens when people attempt to live a life of self-love isn’t comfortable. 

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10 Affirmations for Finding Peace in a Stressful Moment

Here’s the interesting thing about affirmations… when you first start them, it can feel like you’re lying to yourself. Reciting affirmations to yourself so that you can find peace when you really feel like taking your frustration out on the nearest punching bag can seem unrealistic. Unless you know WHY affirmations work in the first place.

See, we don’t do affirmations for things that we already wholeheartedly believe to be true. We don’t need to affirm to ourselves that we can read when we wake up in the morning. If you’re reading this post right now, you probably feel pretty good about your ability to understand a sentence or two. 

We don’t wake up and decide to remind ourselves that we have a sense of smell… (Unless maybe we’re sick and feeling kind of stuffy). 

When we gear ourselves up for affirmations, when we decide that we have to affirm something to ourselves, it is typically because we’re struggling to believe a particular idea to be true. 

Which can lead to an automatic assumption that affirmations don’t work. 

Instead of looking at our affirmations as a way to lie to ourselves, or as a way that we’re reminding ourselves of what we don’t yet have in our lives, we can learn to see our affirmation practice as planting seeds in a garden. 

When planting a seed, we don’t see any immediate results.

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5 Ways to Get Out of a Bad Mood

1. Flood yourself with uplifting content and positivity. 

Bad moods can show up in the middle of any situation! Even when we least expect it. (Sometimes on the days when you’d think I’d be the happiest have been the most challenging). And often times, the bad mood is a result of consistent worries and rumination on a worst case scenario. Sometimes the thoughts we think seem so natural. We don't take the time to investigate them or question them. 

When we find ourselves in a bad mood, it’s a reminder! This bad mood is telling us to pay attention to what we’re thinking.

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5 Ways Mindfulness Meditation Can help You Deal with Negative People and Challenging Situations

1. You’ll develop empathy and compassion.

When you empathize with other people, you put your ability to understand someone else’s feelings into action.

Why would you ever want to understand someone else’s point of view? Especially if you’re dealing with someone who seems completely idiotic, negative, or draining?

At the end of the day, we’re all human. We’re people who deal with emotions, who deal with disappointments, who strive to meet goals and fight to find love. We all want to be heard and acknowledged. And that realization alone can change the way you view another person’s actions.

Holding space to recognize someone else's humanity, and allowing that recognition to precede your reactions is part of what happens when you practice mindfulness regularly. You begin to live life in full awareness - looking at situations from a wider perspective - understanding that although you can identify your anger or disappointment rising within you, you also know that your emotion is a byproduct of someone else’s human need to be heard.

When you are able to look at a situation with compassion, recognizing that someone else might be stressed, or hurting, or worried… when you can understand that their negativity might stem from that pain, then your reaction can also soften.

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Why is it so hard to love and support yourself? Can self-love be more than just a trend?

I know you've been working hard to create the best life for yourself!

We do so much research… we watch so many videos… we read every uplifting quote we can get our hands on…

And then we walk right out of our inspirational bubble and into our regular lives without actually applying anything we just learned. We go on living our lives without taking those uplifting words into consideration.

And I know why we do it…

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The Top 10 Benefits of Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness was like flipping a switch for me. It turned the lights on. It taught me to be compassionately aware of the NOW in a way that wasn’t overwhelming. 

 

I’d been a dabbling meditator for years, but when approaching meditation from a mindfulness perspective I really began to LIVE the benefits of meditation that I’d heard so many others talking about. 

 

So what are the benefits of mindfulness meditation?

Read more to find out!

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An Important Tip for Practicing Mindfulness Meditation

Does anyone else have a million thoughts running through their head when they shower?

 

I do. 

 

All of a sudden it’s as if I’m not even in the shower anymore. I’m thinking about wanting to buy a different kind of soap. And then I’m singing along with the music I’m playing and probably thinking about how ridiculous the lyrics are. Within another minute or so I’ve already planned half of my week, decided what I’m going to eat, and drafted five emails in my mind. 

 

This used to stress me out. Big time. I’d feel exhausted after one simple activity because of the overwhelming number of thoughts passing through my mind, and how I was interpreting them. I wasn’t fully present in what I was doing, and I wasn’t allowing myself to relax and let go of the outcome of situations that hadn’t even happened yet.

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The Most Important Activity for a Mindful and Happy Life

1. Journaling gives us an opportunity to vent: 

No other activity gives you all of the space and time to completely express your internal monologue as often as you'd like. Journaling welcomes you, giving you page after page to express thoughts you've kept bottled up for years. How often have you stopped yourself from saying things that felt true to you because it was the wrong time, wrong place, or because things just felt inappropriate? In life we’ve been trained to censor ourselves, but in journaling we get to be 100% ourselves. We get to see ourselves unapologetically. Journaling gives us the opportunity to work through those moments and thoughts we cut ourselves off from - a chance to fully express our thoughts, and work through past situations in a way that feels liberating. Want to know the best part about venting to your journal? No one has to know about what you’ve written unless you want them to! 

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5 Simple Ways to Beat Procrastination

Have you ever felt like you had a million things to do but no idea where to begin? Have you ever put off something extremely important only to feel rushed and underwhelmed with your performance once you actually got started? Have you ever given up on something, a hobby, a project, a relationship because you just didn’t want to do what was necessary to revive it?

 

We’ve all been there. We’ve all struggled to figure things out. We’ve all scratched our head in confusion not knowing how to get ourselves away from the TV or Facebook or (insert your avoidance mechanism of choice here) so that we can move forward in our lives. 

 

I’ve got some tips for you! Here are some ways I’ve learned to beat procrastination and perfectionist tendencies and make decisions from an authentic, loving, respectful place! 

 

1. Ask yourself what you get out of doing this task.  

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